How Not to Talk to Your Kids

The Inverse Power of Praise.

When parents praise their children's intelligence, they believe they are providing the solution to this problem. According to a survey conducted by Columbia University, 85 percent of American parents think it's important to tell their kids that they're smart. In and around the New York area, according to my own (admittedly nonscientific) poll, the number is more like 100 percent. Everyone does it, habitually. The constant praise is meant to be an angel on ... Full Story »

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Jami Dwyer
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by Jami Dwyer - Oct. 1, 2008

The overall point of the article, that specific types of praise may be more effective encouragement for children than simply saying "you're smart!", is well-supported. Unfortunately, the studies showing that simple "you're smart" praise is harmful were not as convincing. They related one line of praise given after one test to the behaviour of a small group of children, and extrapolated why those children behaved as they did based on that single line. Those explanations are presented anecdotally. Another group (unbelievably) reviewed 15,000 papers in a few years, discarding the ones they didn't like, and keeping only 200 that apparently showed that people with high self esteem are not better off by four (arbitrary) criteria.

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